> > Sean (my fiance) and I have been together for over two years now and we really don't fight, either. I think we communicate fairly well, and he just does not get mad. We do occasionally have misunderstandings, but they tend to work like this:
> >
> > 1. Sean says something and Ellmyruh misunderstands it or jumps to conclusions.
> > 2. Ellmyruh gets annoyed and starts talking more. (I fight with words, not with actions.)
> > 3. Sean stays reasonable while Ellmyruh does not.
> > 4. Ellmyruh storms out of the room. Most of the time, she secretly sees Sean's side by this time but refuses to admit it.
> > 5. Sean follows Ellmyruh.
> > 6. Ellmyruh realizes how dumb/stupid/silly this whole thing is.
> > 7. Sean and Ellmyruh hug and make up.
> >
> > Our disagreements aren't major. I can't even remember what has caused any of them. But I can tell you that my next car WILL have power windows! :-)
> >
> > Ell"Might send this link to Sean to see if he thinks it's accurate"myruh
>
> Wow. How scary. That is *exactly* how arguments between Darien and I go. Just replace Ellmyruh with me and Sean with Darien and you've got it. Except that steps two and three tend to drag out for a long time- mostly my fault.
>
> ~Mina "Ellmyruh, are you sure you're not my long-lost sister or something?" moon

I later realized that I forgot a part of this disagreement process. In between steps 2 and 3, I often do the silent treatment before storming out.

Ell"I've had enough long-lost relatives for now, but when I need to find another one, I'll come looking for you, Mina!"myruh